Relationship, The Essence Of Homeschool Success-申威1600

Relationship is the solid foundation of all successful education! When there is a healthy relationship between parent and child, education will flourish. When there is a breakdown in relationships, education will suffer! It is as simple as that. Based on the relationship criterion you should ask yourself questions such as: * What is the relationship between me and my child/ren? * Am I willing to work at improving the relationship with my child/ren? * Will the homeschooling program that I am reviewing, contribute towards building better relationships between me and my child/ren, or might it cause so much conflict that it will harm our existing relationship? Founded in, and flowing from the homeschool relationship concept are three different, but interrelated concepts, namely 1. Trust Relationship There can not be a true education relationship if there is a lack of trust between the two parties. A parent, or any educator for that matter, who does not trust her child, cannot be successful in her education endeavor. It goes without saying that trust needs to be demonstrated. This is also true from the child’s perspective. If a child has learned to distrust her parent, she will not benefit from her education. She may show outward compliance, but inwardly she will reject the values of her parent. Again, one can use this criterion to predict one’s possible success or the usefulness of a particular homeschooling program. Ask yourself the following questions for example: * Will the activities of this program help me to improve the trust relationship between me and my child? * Does this program lend itself to situations where my child will have to trust me and my skills? * Will there be many opportunities where my child can demonstrate that she is trustworthy? 2. Authority Relationship Authority and discipline are concepts that are not really in favor amongst educators in modern times. But if one cones down to the essence of education one will always find that authority and discipline figure largely in any true education setting. True authority and discipline are based on the respect that the child has for the superior knowledge, and wisdom of her parent. Authority becomes visible when a child voluntarily obeys a request or instruction of her parent. * She (the child) accepts the authority of her parent because she has learned to trust the parent. * She has also learned through experience that her parent only has good intentions toward her. * The parent does not expect blind obedience for the sake of obedience, but she expects obedience because it will eventually result in some good thing for the child. – This is why it is often the better part of wisdom to explain and to discuss (not argue or negotiate) with a child when a request is put to her. Keep in mind that authority really has very little to do with punishment. Punishment is a last resort and the need for punishment is very often the result of a failure of the authority relationship. 3. Knowledge Relationship The final element of the relationship essence is knowledge. The knowledge that I refer to is not primarily subject knowledge. It is true knowledge and understanding of the "other". The truly successful homeschooling parent will really know his child. He will know and understand intuitively what his child’s deepest need is at any particular point in time. Sometimes the child may need a firm ‘no, not now!’, and at other times the child may need permission to stay up late, in spite of the family rule in this regard. Sometimes a child may need a sympathetic ear and at other times she may need to be left alone to explore by herself. Conclusion The homeschool relationship and education essences listed above are all interrelated. If one is lacking or flawed, for whatever reason, it will affect all of the others. And if all these essences are present and functioning as a balanced whole the outcome of the educative endeavor will be successful. When we understand the essence of homeschooling concept it is clear why homeschooling has the edge on public schooling! * A mother (and father, to a lesser extent) posses these essences intuitively (some say ‘instinctively’). * The mother is in relationship with her child even from before she is born. The mother understands and knows her child better than any other human being and the mother always has the best interest of her child at heart. It is true that there are many examples where this is not absolutely true. But this does not detract from the essential truth of this statement. The parent who understands the importance of the essence of homeschooling will not only select a curriculum and home school program that will support the strengthening of these relationships, but will also consciously "strive" to build on these relationship essences regardless of what particular homeschooling program has been chosen. The key to successful homeschooling lies in the last statement above. Relationship, trust, authority, and knowledge essences are not ‘all or nothing’ concepts. There is always room for growth and improvement. The parent who is willing to commit herself to growing and developing and practicing these essences, will be successful! About the Author: This article was written and submitted by Paul Coetser aka Grandpapa the friendly and knowledgeable guide at Homeschool Castle that can be found at ..homeschool-portal… Homeschool Castle is the repository of quality and definitive information on all aspects relating to homeschool theory and practice. Article Published On: 相关的主题文章: